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July 2015

The End of The Newlywed Notebook

Yes, you read that right.

Unfortunately, I have made the heart-wrenching decision to stop blogging here at TNN.

Let me tell you this has certainly not been an easy decision by any stretch of the imagination. As I’ve said over and over again I LOVE blogging. I’ve learned so many life skills by blogging in everything from all that it takes to have and run your own business, to financial and social skills, to even some advanced technological skills. I’ve made so many amazing friends through blogging too, and for all of those things I will be forever grateful.

I’ve really been thinking hard about this for the past few weeks, but if I’m really honest with myself I’ve probably been toying around with the idea for much longer than that. I’ve been a “blogger” for over 3 years now…it’s what I know how to do and a big part of who I am. But I need to do what’s right at this point for me and for my family. I need to actually spend time with my husband again. I need to focus more on my health, especially as we gear up for my big surgery in a few weeks. I need to look forward to the weekends and spend them being lazy with my husband or doing things we love like working on the house, instead of feverishly trying to burn through all the list of things I either have to do for my blog or things I’ve been neglecting because of it. Read more…



July 2015

Waiting on Baby | Update 2

I know I just recently did a fertility update, but a lot has happened since that post and I feel like since we are at a point where we finally have some answers, another update is probably appropriate. If you aren’t into these posts I COMPLETELY understand and am in no way offended if you decide to just pass on this week’s post. However, I know there are also a good number of you who either have gone through this, are currently going through it, or are just awesomely supportive of Eric and I and want to keep tabs on how things are going.
Here is the most recent update in our newlywed fertility saga. Hear how my most recent doctor's appointment went, and see what answers we finally received!
I will try to keep this short and sweet, but I wanted to share the big revelations we’ve received lately in the fertility department. So, a few weeks ago I went in for a big ultrasound appointment where they did an in-depth look and completed a few tests in order to try and figure out what is really going on. And let me tell ya, they found a lot. My poor doctor has some work cut out for him, that’s for sure.

Our appointment started with the ultrasound tech taking a bunch of different photos for Dr. K to review. After the first half of the appointment, my doctor came in to do some testing and take a look at what the tech had found. Unfortunately (or fortunately I guess…answers are better than no answers, right?) Dr. K was able to easily confirm that I do have endometriosis all over both sides of my body. In fact, he’s pretty convinced that at this point it has also spread into my body and is growing around certain organs, which is pretty typical of more advanced endo. However without going into all the details, it was decided that I will need another specialist brought in for my surgery to address some possible extra complications this spread of endo may have caused. *Insert thumbs down here. (more…)



July 2015

When Your Husband is Wrong

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If you’ve been married for a few months (heck, a few days) you’ve probably been in a situation or conversation when you find yourself thinking your husband is wrong. It may be that he’s wrong about specific information, the way he handled a certain situation, or that he’s just wrong in general.

As a wife of almost 3 years now, I can definitely admit I’ve found myself in this situation a few hundred dozen times. And unfortunately, in some of those instances I’ve definitely handled things incorrectly. I’ve yelled, gotten frustrated, and spent way too much time trying to convince him that he is in fact wrong. I can tell you that this has never ever been a beneficial way to approach the situation in any sense of the word, and as soon as I learned this the better off I was. Now, a few years in to marriage, I’ve realized that when I find myself questioning my husband or his actions, I must take a step back and consider the following three things…
What do you do when your husband is wrong? How do you handle the situation? Here are 3 quick questions you can ask yourself before jumping into the ring!

1 || Is this something I really need to fight for?

This is always the first question I ask myself when I find myself thinking my husband is wrong. Sometimes I ask myself this and find that the answer really is “yes,” we do need to do some more communicating on this topic and my view on this needs to be heard. But probably a lot more often I realize that what I think my husband is “wrong” about doesn’t really need to be discussed further.

The way I tend to judge whether or not I need to fight for my side to be seen is by asking myself the following question, “will our differences of opinion on this topic affect the quality of our marriage?” So for example if something Eric did has a deep effect on my emotions or the way I’m feeling about our relationship I make sure to let him know, but in a non-accusatory and communicative way. But if it’s just something that drives me nuts from time to time or rubs me the wrong way here or there, I try to just take a deep breath and let it go. Read more…



July 2015

Rocking Pale Skin During the Summer | thebalm Review

I’m super pale-skinned. I always have been that way and feel like I can safely assume I always will be. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me, but during the summertime here in Wisconsin (which, hello, is right now) it kind of drives me nuts. Shorts and dresses do not feel nearly as comfortable to me when I have a pair of bright white gams sticking out from underneath.

And the worst part of it is I could sit out in the sun all day and never get any darker. My skin doesn’t burn, it doesn’t tan, it doesn’t really do much of anything. The sun and my skin are pretty much mortal enemies – they want nothing to do with each other.

So over the years I’ve had to get creative with different ways to get some color into my completion during the warmer months. I’ve tried everything from spray tanning to tanning lotions to pretty much every kind of bronzing powder that’s out there. Recently, I’ve come across both a line of cosmetics and a combination of application that I’ve been SO impressed with for making me look skin-kissed without being orangey or streaky.

I'm always on the look for a good way to bring a summery glow to my pale skin. Well, I think I've finally found it. Here is my review on 4 thebalm products!

I had never tried any products from the line thebalm before, but I had heard great things about it from multiple people, so it was on my list for the future. However, once I started trying to track it down when I was out and about I quickly discovered that it was a tough line of products to get your hands on. It’s not carried at Sephora, nor Ulta, nor any department store in my area. I did notice that every once in a while Ulta would have a handful of thebalm products at the counter, but it was never anything I was interested in trying. Read more…



June 2015

Waiting on Your Husband

This month my husband and I will have been married for three years, and together for over 10. During that time I have found myself waiting on my husband in many different phases of our lives. Sometimes it was in small things like where he wanted to go for his birthday dinner, but I would also find myself waiting for him in bigger things like when we would get engaged or when he felt it was the right time to purchase a home.

I think we as women find ourselves waiting on our men much more often than they find themselves waiting on us. Unless we are getting ready for date night – then if you are anything like me, all bets are off. But I think the majority of the time we as women are so used to multi-tasking and having to make quick decisions that we have a tendency to lose our patience with our guys when we find ourselves waiting on them.

Over the past 10 years I've found myself waiting waiting on my husband many times. Here are some tips for the next time you're waiting on your husband.

Over the past year or so I’ve found myself becoming a bit more patient with my husband, so I thought I would share a few of these “revelations” here. So whether you are waiting to actually find your spouse, waiting for them to finally “make a move,” or just waiting for them to be ready to move on to the next big thing, here a few thoughts you may want to keep in mind the next time you find yourself getting frustrated with your partner. Read more…