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Monday

13

July 2015

When Your Husband is Wrong

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If you’ve been married for a few months (heck, a few days) you’ve probably been in a situation or conversation when you find yourself thinking your husband is wrong. It may be that he’s wrong about specific information, the way he handled a certain situation, or that he’s just wrong in general.

As a wife of almost 3 years now, I can definitely admit I’ve found myself in this situation a few hundred dozen times. And unfortunately, in some of those instances I’ve definitely handled things incorrectly. I’ve yelled, gotten frustrated, and spent way too much time trying to convince him that he is in fact wrong. I can tell you that this has never ever been a beneficial way to approach the situation in any sense of the word, and as soon as I learned this the better off I was. Now, a few years in to marriage, I’ve realized that when I find myself questioning my husband or his actions, I must take a step back and consider the following three things…
 
What do you do when your husband is wrong? How do you handle the situation? Here are 3 quick questions you can ask yourself before jumping into the ring!
 

1 || Is this something I really need to fight for?

 
This is always the first question I ask myself when I find myself thinking my husband is wrong. Sometimes I ask myself this and find that the answer really is “yes,” we do need to do some more communicating on this topic and my view on this needs to be heard. But probably a lot more often I realize that what I think my husband is “wrong” about doesn’t really need to be discussed further.

The way I tend to judge whether or not I need to fight for my side to be seen is by asking myself the following question, “will our differences of opinion on this topic affect the quality of our marriage?” So for example if something Eric did has a deep effect on my emotions or the way I’m feeling about our relationship I make sure to let him know, but in a non-accusatory and communicative way. But if it’s just something that drives me nuts from time to time or rubs me the wrong way here or there, I try to just take a deep breath and let it go. Read more…

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Monday

29

June 2015

Waiting on Your Husband

This month my husband and I will have been married for three years, and together for over 10. During that time I have found myself waiting on my husband in many different phases of our lives. Sometimes it was in small things like where he wanted to go for his birthday dinner, but I would also find myself waiting for him in bigger things like when we would get engaged or when he felt it was the right time to purchase a home.

I think we as women find ourselves waiting on our men much more often than they find themselves waiting on us. Unless we are getting ready for date night – then if you are anything like me, all bets are off. But I think the majority of the time we as women are so used to multi-tasking and having to make quick decisions that we have a tendency to lose our patience with our guys when we find ourselves waiting on them.

Over the past 10 years I've found myself waiting waiting on my husband many times. Here are some tips for the next time you're waiting on your husband.

Over the past year or so I’ve found myself becoming a bit more patient with my husband, so I thought I would share a few of these “revelations” here. So whether you are waiting to actually find your spouse, waiting for them to finally “make a move,” or just waiting for them to be ready to move on to the next big thing, here a few thoughts you may want to keep in mind the next time you find yourself getting frustrated with your partner. Read more…

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Monday

4

May 2015

A Beginner’s Guide to Marriage-ing | Part 2

In case you missed it, last week I shared part 1 of “A Beginner’s Guide to Marriage-ing.” If you missed it, be sure to read that one first before continuing on to part 2.

I want to thank you all for your sweet comments, tweets, and shares on the first post in this two-part series. Hopefully today’s part 2 does not disappoint! Alright, enough babble, let’s just jump right in!

Being a newlywed can be a challenge. Today I decided to put together "A Beginners Guide to Marriage-ing" — a guide to help you screw up less than I did.

 

Six || Let Your Husband Speak. 

Okay, this one might sound crazy to you wives out there, but this has been a bit of a relationship revelation for me. This topic probably deserves a post entirely to itself, but for right now I will just say this: let your husband talk until he blatantly let’s you know he’s finished with his thought.

Men process information so much differently than women do, and a lot of times when we converse with them we are assuming or expecting them to communicate like a woman. When women talk with each other, we just say whatever we are thinking at the time and interrupt each other and talk over each other. And we don’t do it to be rude or inconsiderate to the other person or anything like that; as women we just communicate well with each other that way and can get through a lot of topics and information quickly. Read more…

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Wednesday

29

April 2015

A Beginners Guide to Marriage-ing | Part 1

Let’s get real. Being a newlywed can be tough. Between learning your husband and learning your own new role as a wife, there is a lot of room for error. And most of the time I’m all for making mistakes. Heck, there’s no better way to learn, in my opinion. But sometimes you’d just prefer to avoid the headache and frustration altogether. You just want advice on “what to expect,” or “what not to do,” or “common pitfalls to avoid” so you spend your time experiencing the “better” of marriage, and not so much of the “worse.” So from one wifey to another, here is my beginners guide for surviving marriage.

Being a newlywed can be a challenge. Today I decided to put together "A Beginners Guide to Marriage-ing" — a guide to help you screw up less than I did.

One || Leave and Cleave.

When you get married, you must be completely prepared to leave your parents and have your husband become your immediate family. I will admit that when we first got married, this was a tough one for me. I often still wanted my mom to be the first one with whom I shared good news, and the one I went shopping with on Saturday afternoons. Slowly though, Eric and I began to see each other as our “family” and rely on each other instead of our parents. I believe that no matter who you are this shift in thinking takes some time, but if you can start mentally preparing for it even before you get married, you will have a much smoother transition. Read more…

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Monday

27

April 2015

7 Netflix Series Your Husband Will Watch With You

If you haven’t already figured it out, Eric and I watch a lot of Netflix. Especially during the winter, we spent many cold nights posted up on the couch running through various tv series. One of our biggest disagreements though is always which tv show to start next after our previous one ends. Eric always wants to watch something action-packed (often involving guts and gore), and I always want to watch some girly drama with a good amount of humor mixed in.

I don’t totally hate what Eric wants to watch and he doesn’t completely despise my shows, but in the past we would often have to take turns compromising on what we wanted to watch. Lately though it seems like we’ve really come across quite a few series on Netflix that we both really enjoy watching. Instead of keeping this marital gold-mine to myself, I thought I’d share our 7 favorite Netflix series here today. If there are any of these you and your hubby have yet to see, make sure you add them to your list!

Today I'm sharing 7 Netflix series your husband will watch with you. Both my husband and I are equally invested in all of these tv shows on Netflix!

{Click on any series title to read a description of the show over on Netflix}

1. Parenthood || Ah, Parenthood. I deeply regret sharing that Eric and I never watched this show when it actually aired. I think we just didn’t start it from the beginning, and once we decided we wanted to watch it the show was too many seasons in and we didn’t want to attempt to try to catch up. Well, I’m please to say that this is easily mine and Eric’s newest favorite series. We watched the first 5 seasons in less than a month and are chomping at the bit for the final season to come out on Netflix. If you haven’t seen this one yet, start watching it TONIGHT! Read more…

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