I always LOVE getting comments and suggestions for post ideas from readers. I love that people actually read my blog, feel comfortable asking me to write about certain topics, and value my opinion enough to want to hear my thoughts in the first place.
So naturally, when I got a Facebook message a month or two ago asking me to write about some of the “unwritten rules” of wedding planning, I answered with an enthusiastic YES! Not only is it an awesome topic idea, but I think it’s one of those areas of wedding planning that can be tricky to navigate, since there isn’t really a concrete “right” and “wrong” way for handling many of these certain situations.
I got to work right away taking notes on different “touchy topics” and jotting down my personal thoughts on each. There may have even been a chart. You guys – I wanted this one to be good.
But then of course, summer happened and life totally got away from me, and here we sit almost two months later. I want to give a shout-out to the fabulous gal who requested this post (I’m not sure if she would like to remain nameless or not)! I feel absolutely terrible that it took me this long to get this post up on the blog, so I hope she forgives me. :) And I hope that the rest of you enjoy as well! She gave me a few specific topics to touch on, but I included some of my own as well. As you read, please keep in mind that these are just my personal opinions on the topic based on my own thoughts and experiences. I’d love for you to share your views as well in the comments!
Is it OK to give cash as a gift?
Ugh, this is a tricky one. Probably should have saved this one for last, huh? But really, my personal opinion is that this is actually OK. Obviously, sticking two crumpled up $20 bills into an envelope is different than writing out a check to “Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so.” Make it look like you planned to give money as a gift ahead of time, and not like you ran to the ATM 35 minutes before the ceremony started.
Also, keep in mind that by giving cash, you will probably end up spending more than if you just bought a gift in the first place. Often times you will be able to find some sort of discount or coupon to use when purchasing a wedding gift, making a $50 gift really only cost $35. When you give money the couple can tell exactly how much you are spending on them.
That being said, I do think that going off the registry is always best. You aren’t the couple and don’t know exactly what they need or will use, so if you aren’t either giving them a gift off the registry or something very personal, go with money and don’t just purchase something you think they will like. Read More