Waiting on Baby | Update 1
Written by Lindsay Ropella
A few weeks ago I wrote my first post about my husband and my struggles with infertility. I mentioned that we would soon be going in for our very first fertility appointment with a new doctor. I had a lot of hesitations about going, but all in all I was just hopeful they would find something that would be treatable instead of slapping me with the “unexplained infertility” diagnosis and sending us on our merry way.
Well, that appointment has since come and gone, and a lot has changed for us in just one short month. I’m happy to report that our first appointment went just as good as it possibly could considering it was a fertility appointment, and we finally have a plan. I do much better when I’m able to move forward toward an end goal, no matter how fast or slow progress might be, so I’m very grateful to now have a plan I agree with an can get behind.
When we walked in to the clinic for our appointment, we were nervous. I’m sure if you asked him directly my husband Eric would tell you that he was just fine, but his face told a very different story. We were quickly taken back by a nurse to get those initial measurements and paperwork done that you seem to have to do at every appointment, and only had to wait a few minutes for the doctor to arrive.
First and foremost, can I please just tell you that I already LOVE this man? We will call him Dr. K, and in our short time together he has already proven to be the most awesome doctor I’ve ever had. This was the first time in my adult life having a male doctor so I was a bit nervous about that, but I was so pleased to discover that we got along very well and I was very comfortable with him. Dr. K started by asking me all about my concerns, my issues, and my family history. He listened intently and asked a lot of questions. We then moved on to the exam part of the appointment. After about 5 minutes of that fun-ness, he told me he would be back shortly. And let me just tell you that that 10-15 minute wait was one of the longest times of my entire life. I didn’t really know what he was going to say, although I did have my suspicions.
When Dr. K returned he was laden with a stack of textbooks, and proceeded to show me in pictures (which I weirdly loved) exactly what was going on. He told me that unfortunately he could feel endometriosis all over the right side of my body. He knew it was pretty bad but wouldn’t be sure the exact extent of it until he gets in there for surgery, which was scheduled right away. He also told me that he suspects I may have a uterine septum (you can google it if you’re interested) and if so I would need to have corrective surgery for that at the same time as my laparoscopy for the endometriosis. We finished by scheduling me for an ultrasound in a few weeks to either confirm or deny the septum. And then surgery has been scheduled for a few weeks following that.
So we have a plan. A bit of a scary plan but nevertheless it’s a plan I’m very glad to have and I’m feeling grateful to be heading in a direction of healing (getting rid of all the pain I’m normally in is a huge bonus) and hope.
In the meantime as we wait for my surgery, Dr. K is very concerned with getting me healthy and feeling well, which I really appreciate. I have a condition called Hashimoto’s Disease (the autoimmune form of hypothyroidism) that I’ve had issues with since I was in 7th grade, and Dr. K is very committed to changing my medications and dosages in order to get that under control. It can actually be something very dangerous to be struggling with during a pregnancy, so I am all for taking the next month or so to get that regulated. He will also be testing a lot of different hormone and vitamin levels in order to get everything into tip-top shape before I go in for surgery.
And the craziest part of this whole thing? After talking with different family members about all this over the past few weeks, I was shocked to discover that Dr. K has at one time saved a baby on both sides of my family. One I knew about before meeting with Dr. K as that family member had been the one who recommended him to Eric and I, but the other one was a complete surprise to me, happened almost 10 years ago, and I just found out about it a few weeks ago. So needless to say my family is on board. I think I mentioned in my last fertility post that Eric and I were nervous to start all this because we didn’t really know yet where the line was between just taking action and starting to play God. Our main goal in all this is to follow God’s plan for our lives and to have this be a season of life that honors Him. So to see all these connections pop up and to have a feeling of such peace with “our plan” so far has been such a blessing and a source of comfort for us.
So whether you send prayers, well wishes, or good thoughts, we would appreciate all of it! I will put out another update in a few months after I’ve had surgery to give you an update. Hoping more good news isn’t too far off in the future!